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It is very satisfied feeling creating this blog. I dont know if it helps you but it definitely helps me checking on myself everyday. It reminds me of too many aspects of human values we need to acquire or improve when we encounter things or people in life.

There are times I feel fragile, lonely and down too. It is normal to every human being however I know I will find strength in me, to be able to open a book which draw strength in me, that's how this blog started and is very important to me. I hope people who read this, be my dearest friends and new visitor will have a wonderful life of his/her own; I wish you be my friends too. :)

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Sensitivity vs Callousness

Sensitivity is being aware of the pain in others because of the healing we have received from God for similar hurts.

Sensitivity is perceiving the true feelings of others and adapting our responses to them; tenderhearted, kind and empathy.

Sensitivity is the communication of one spirit with the spirit of another

We earn the privilege of helping others by avoiding hurtful words and actions.

The tongue of the wise is health

When we harden our hearts, we lose the capacity to understand the hurts of others.

“We should find in each man’s life sorrow and suffering enough to disarm all hostilities”- Henry W.Longfellow.

The varying hare (snowshoe rabbit) changes colour in response to the changing seasons. Its sensitivity to changing amounts of light conforms its hair to blend with the background of white snow in winter and the brown forest floor in the summer.

Personal Evaluation
How sensitive are you?
* Do you close off communication with family members?
* Have you chosen an ideal role model to follow?
* Do you exercise your spirit to be sensitive to the spirits of other people?
* Do you allow bitterness or toleration of evil to cause callousness in your spirit?
* Are you sensitive to voice of loves ones?

Thriftiness vs Extravagance

Thriftiness is the basis for stewardship and foundation of every generous deed. Stewardship identifies someone who manages the property of his master. His faithfulness is determined by how prosperous he becomes in the use and increase of the resources under his care.

“A man’s treatment of money is the most decisive test of his character – how he makes it and spends it” – James Moffat.

Because koalas eat only eucalyptus leaves that contain very little nutritional value, they must conserve every bit of energy. To get by on less, koala moves very slowly and sleep most of the day.

Thriftiness is the skill of trading things of lesser value for things of greater value.

Thriftiness is the personal discipline of those who are striving for the greatest rewards.

A person who understood and practiced the principles of thriftiness will use as few funds as possible for consumable items, and as much of their resources as possible on that which would bring greater returns.

Borrowing is the bane of thriftiness, because it turns the joy of saving into the bondage of survival.

How thriftiness differs from stinginess

Thriftiness is using as few resources as possible for my own needs so that I will have greater resources for generosity to others. Stinginess is keeping back what should be given to others so that I will have more for myself

Aspect of Thriftiness

Thriftiness begins by being content with basics.
A person who believes that happiness is measured by personal possessions will not be capable of true thriftiness. He will use up valuable assets for things that neither profit nor satisfy. A person who is content with the basic essentials of life will have the natural ability to be thrifty.
Thriftiness is using creativity to increase assets.
A thrifty man will understand how things are designed to work and will use this knowledge to increase productivity.
Thriftiness is protecting assets by putting up with irritations.
Life is filled with irritations and conditions that are less than ideal. Personal comfort often comes with a high price and is only temporary. A thrifty person will put up with temporary messiness that is necessary for productivity. Much increase is by our strength.
Thriftiness is making offers rather than asking and accepting the quotes.
Always negotiate for the best buy through our dealing and buyer must aware that a seller will inflate the value of his products and this must be counteracted in a gracious way.
Thriftiness is gathering up the fragments after a project.
By not allowing the remaining food to go to waste demonstrated thriftiness.
Thriftiness is saving during times of plenty.
Thriftiness requires a long-range goal that is more important than immediate luxuries and conveniences to increase standard of living with personal comfort and luxuries.

3 requirements for thriftiness.

* One must be faithful in little things
* Be faithful in the use of money.
* Being faithful in that which belongs to another person.

Personal Evaluation
How thrifty are you?
* Do you keep detailed records of your resources so you know how they are being spent?
* Do you take time to evaluate the profitability of each investment you make?* Do you plan out each day so you can make the wisest use of every hour?
* Do you use principles of negotiation so you can get the best buy and also help your suppliers save money?
* Do you save all you can so you can have available funds to give?
* Are you using our energies and resources primarily for yourself or for the needs of others?
* Are you using your energies and resources primarily for yourself or for the need of others?
* Do you study procedures to see how they can be more efficient and less costly?
* When your income increases, do you keep the same standard of living so you have more to give?
* Review our investment of time, energy or money.

Thoroughness vs Incompleteness

Thoroughness is carrying out each task in preparation for God’s personal inspection and approval. To be thorough requires that we put our whole soul into the work we do. This includes concentrating with the mind, directing the emotions, and using the will to do a complete and detailed job with excellence and consistency.

A job is never really done right until it is done right.

Attention to detail is the difference between mediocrity and excellence in the work we do.

Do a job with thy might as if you will never have another chance to do it right

Working harder when the boss is watching is convicting evidence that you are a manpleaser rather than genuine pleaser.

“People forget how fast you did a job – but they remember how well you did it” – Howard W.Newton

The American Alligator prepares a nesting spot that is not too high and not too low, not too wet and not too dry, not too hot and not too cold. Its nest is perfect in every respect.

When God thoroughly searches our heart, He will reveal to us the hidden areas of sin and uncleanness.

We also has to be aware of thorough cleansing of our hearts and surroundings.
Outward Cleanliness – When through cleaning is not maintained, clutter and dirt accumulate.

Personal Evaluation
How thorough we are?
* Are you committed to thoroughness in all you do?
* Are you impressed with your thoroughness in your hygiene: Brushing teeth, shower, washing hands, etc?
* Do you picture your jobs will be inspected and monitored?
* Do you thoroughly examine your life before taking communion?
* Do you clean around items and also under them?
* When you paint, do you make sure there is adequate preparation, including drop cloths to protect floors and carpets?
* Do you complete all the necessary details of a job, or do you leave things for others to do, such as clean up?

Security vs Anxiety

Security is being free from the "cares" of this world because of the assurance of God's continual care for us.

The Value of Security
There is a deep longing for security in every person's heart. Unfortunately, we tend to look for security in temporal things that perish, such as money, possessions, or people, rather than eternal realities that cannot be taken away. Ironically, the very things we depend on for security produce insecurity and anxiety

Security=Strength and Shield = Freedom from fear = Inward peace and joy = Stability and Fruitfulness = Everlasting lovingkindness

God created human with insecurities that he delights to address through a growing relationship of love.

Insecurity is the result of expecting from people or things that have no assurance to be given.

Kangaroos give birth after one month gestation period. The helpless young kangaroo, called a joey, is the only the size of a lima bean. It finds security in its mother's pouch, where it receives protection , food and warmth for up to a year.

We find security in someone when it is knowing that she/he will never leave us or forsake us. Everything in our life can be shaken; our shield is still our belief.

Responsibility

Responsibility is not just doing what I said I would do, but doing what I know I should do. It is doing what is expected and required. Profitability is doing what is extra and not anticipated. Responsibility is also doing what I ought to do even when I don't want to do it.

The more responsible I am, the more freedom I will be given; the more freedom I am given, the more responsible I must be

"You can't escape the responsibility of tomorrow by avoiding it today" - Abraham Lincoln

The bald eagle demonstrates responsibility by building enormous nests for shelter of its young, by resting in the lifting power of the sun, and by remaining faithful to a single mate for an entire lifetime.

Personal Accountability for Responsibility
* Responsibility for thoughts of others and everything
* Responsibility for words
* Responsibility for attitudes
* Responsibility for motives

Resourcefulness vs Wastefulness

Resourcefulness is increasing assets by seeing value in what others overlook or discard.

The ultimate example of resourcefulness is the great value we see in each person and the loving dilligence we exert to seek and to brighten other's life.

Resourcefulness is taking what others view as nothing and making it into something.

Opportunities is out there; but we must exercise resourcefulness to get it!

Known as one of the most difficult of all fish to catch, the muskie demonstrates resourcefulness by doing anything in its power to escape. It twists, jumps, dives and even lies motionless on the bottom in order to free itself from a fisherman's lure.

We can preserved life through resourcefulness in overcoming effects of flood, etc.

I believe in prayer for resourcefulness. Ask and receive. Seek and find with insight, initiative and creativity. Make contact with people who are involved. Explain to them our goals and prepare our heart.

Patience vs Restlessness

Patience is accepting, quiet waiting and enduring astonishing suffering, difficult and adversed situation with optimism and cheerfulness in struggles, to undergo and to bear trials, to have fortitude, to persevere. It is by faith we have to be forebearing, long-spirited and long suffering.

Patience is a reward for properly responding to trials and tribulations and thus there is hope.

Patience allows us in having our perfect work and be complete in various applications of labor, growth, mental and moral character, etc

Time ceases to be a factor when patience is motivated by love.
Genesis 29:20 Jacob's 7 years of waiting seem like "a few days" because of the great love he had for Rachel.

The suffering we are to endure with patience also powerfully benefits the lives of those who watch our faith grow in trials.

Advice from My Best Friend

"If someone doesnt understand how to appreciate you; never mind because our life still has really long-long way to go" - Ah Hao.

Thank you.

Punctuality & Time vs Tardiness

Punctuality is demonstrating the worth of people and time by arriving for appointments before they begin.

Punctuality is based on 2 important factors. The first is a reverence(great respect) for time, and the second is a respect for other people. Punctuality is being present , prepared and alert for appointed times and seasons. Being punctual is living in harmony with those who is precisely on time.


We are to reverence time because God created it. ..days, nights, weeks, months and years. Also established seasons of the year and seasons of life. God designed the day for work and the night for rest.

Punctuality requires respect for other people and the time God/friends/etc has entrusted to them. Time is our most precious assets and irreplacable. We are given a limited amount of it and are accountable to people or God for how we use it.

When we keep other people waiting, we actually rob them of their time and hinder them from accomplishing their/other people's will.

"Lost Yesterday; Somewhere between sunrise and sunset; Two golden hours; Each set with sixty diamond minutes; No reward is offered; For they are gone forever" - Horace Mann

If you have robbed others of time by lack of punctuality, make a list of those whom you have wronged and ask for their forgiveness. Fulfill the promises that you have made to others, and design ways for others to hold you accountable for punctuality. Make sure this is a priority until punctuality is a consistent discipline in your life.

Motivation to make the most of every minute comes by realizing how short life truly is.

Procrastination is the thief of time.

People tend to count the faults of those who keep them waiting. The longer they wait, the more faults they find.

"I ought not to insult anyone by supposing that his time is worth nothing and that he himself is a nobody, who may as well wait for me as not." - C.H Spurgeon.

Punctuality is saying YES to wise planning and NO to delighful distraction. "So teach us to number our days that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom" - Psalms 90:12

Time is the passing of life. Redeeming the time means rescuing it from going to waste.

Time is like a coupon; it does nothing for us until we exchange it for something of value. We get the most value for it when we invest it in eternal treasures.

Time is a valuable asset which can be multiplied when we use it fruitfully.

The punctual migration of swallows has been documented for thousand of years. Each fall, swallows fly south, and each spring they return - usually within twenty-four hours of their anticipated arrival.

Related Character Necessary for Punctuality:
* Organization - Organizing our lives and surroundings so that we can be on time
* Creativity - Designing more efficient ways to accomplish tasks so as to be on time.
* Initiative - Taking the lead in doing what needs to be done in order to be punctual.
* Patience - Forgiving the lack of punctuality in others.

Personal Evaluation
* Do you arrive punctually for meal times and other family gatherings?
* Do you arrive early at your place of employment?
* Do you keep appointments that you make with others?
* Do you promptly pay your bills?
* Do you write thank-you letters and notes in a timely fashion?
* Do you punctually return books or other items that you borrow?
* Do you fulfill the promises you have made to others?
* Do you go to bed early so that you can get up early?
* Do you arrive at a venue early so that you are ready at the appointed time?
* Do you quickly do all you can to meet a need that God brings to your attention?
* Do you seize opportunity known to you?

Persuasiveness

Persuasiveness is helping people find out what they need and then showing them the best way to get it. To persuade means to induce by words to believe; to convince by sound reasoning. It carries with it the concept of guiding a person's thoughts by a sequence of convincing statements. Persuasiveness is communicating truth to a person's spirit through sound reasoning and convincing him.

Convincing people requires a confidence in our voices that matches the truth and love in our hearts

The most effective persuasion is convincing a person that an idea originated with him. When it comes to convincing others, our lives are more persuasive than our words.

Cheerfulness ( Part 2 )

It is when you have passed through so much and there's only a little to go and that little is easy because you'd lose if you turn back.

Cheerfulness is the brilliance of being free. We need to have such vision that we can sense a good future for everything. We have to work for it, clear away enough of the rubbish inside that we can see.

Gentleness ( vs Harshness )

Gentleness comes as we humble ourselves. We are to discipline ourselves in order to recognize the weaknesses and limitations of others and respond to them with a soft answer and patient encouragement. We are to nurture them with joyful singing, wise answers, we can cry out to God on their behalf and lifting them when they falter. Gentleness will give people rest and comfort especially those who labour and heavy laden with tribulations.

Gentleness begins with pain and sorrow and ends in an abundant increase.

Accepting someone's comfort and grace during trials develops an attitude of kindness and gentleness toward others. The fire of adversity that burn hurtful thistles and thorns in a person's life give opportunity for a new growth of gentleness.

Few of us will ever have the opportunity to perform great deeds of heroism, but to everyone of us there is given the chance day by day to be sweet and gracious and winsome.

The gentleness that comes from true wisdom is the result of an understanding heart or hearing heart.

Gentleness refers to moral excellence in character and attitude.

Personal Evaluation
How gentle are you?
* Have you developed self discipline and abasement in order to be attentive to the hurts and needs of others?
*When you give instructions or responses to others, doyou take consideration their weaknesses and limitations?
* Do you have a sheperd's mind-set toward those who are looking to you for care and growth?
* Are you irritable and reactionary when people with needs intrude upon your time or energy?
* Have you translated past pain and suffering in your life into reminders to protect others and prepare them to have a right response to any offenders?
* Do you speak evil of someone you dislike?
* Do you look for ways to teach those who are not as mature as they should be?
* Do you give a soft answer so that you do not offend or discourage others?
* Do you see potential in others and purpose to help them grow in life?

Deference ( vs. Offensiveness )

Deference is putting the welfare of others ahead of our own personal pleasures
It is making personal sacrifices to help others be successful and putting off words, attitudes, or actions that would cause others to be offended or weakened.

Deference is about exchanging my rights for the permanent joy of another's growth.

Personal Evaluation
* Do you have modesty and privacy in your home to protect children from stirring up wrong desires?
* Do you justify music or activities that offend or weaken fellow housemates?
* Do you offend people of other cultures, races or ethnic groups by the words you use to describe them?
* Do you adjust as much as you can to accomodate those from other backgrounds and philosophies?

Compassion vs Indifference

Compassion is responding to a deep need with a longing to do whatever is necessary to meet it. It is a practical expression of genuine love.

Sympathy – feeling sorry for people who are hurt
Empathy – feeling the pain with people who are hurt
Compassion – doing something about the pain.

A man with compassion is a good Samaritan.

One reason for pain is to help us have compassion on others with similar hurts.
Having compassion can be enhanced by having a big heart with praying list.
We can comfort others in their tribulations.

A herd of Zebra will slow its pace when one member is injured so it can stay together while the wounded member recovers.

Decisiveness vs Double-mindedness

Life is a continuous series of exchanges based on wise or unwise decisions.

Decisiveness is choosing to do what is right based on accurate facts, wise counsel and clearly defined goals.

We must determine early in life that we will choose to do what is right, whatever the cost.

First step in decisiveness is choosing whom we are going to serve in lives.
Difficulties are overcome when our hearts are ready to reach our goal.
The 4 Ds of Decision Making
1) Don’t – If it is the responsibility of others, let them do it
2) Delay – If it should be done at a better time, wait.
3) Delegate – If others can do it better, let them
4) Do it – If none of the above apply, do it!

Those who avoid decision making thereby decide to let circumstances and others make decisions for them.

Decisiveness is based on wise consideration of all available
options.

Love ( vs Selfishness )

Love is giving to the basic needs genuinely without any expectation of personal gain. "You can give without loving but you cannot love without giving- by Amy Carmichael". Love is not complete and has no glory without giving.

Love is kind; focus on people needs rather than their faults It looks for ways to be useful and acts benevolently. it needs tolerance, generosity, availability, creativity, compassion, sensitivity, initiative, gentleness, alertness.

Love suffers long; does not lose heart. It perseveres with patience and bravely endures misfortunes and troubles. It needs endurance, patience,forgiveness, joyfulness, faith, loyalty, flexibility.

Love does not envy; does not boil with desires to have that which belongs to others. It needs gratefulness, contentment, resourcefulness, thriftiness, security

Love does not vaunt; does not boast of ability and accomplishment, does not look for ways to promote itself or extol its virtues with rhetorical embellishments. It needs sincerity, meekness, deference.

Love is not puffed up. It does not cherish exaggerated ideas of its own importance. It does not look down on others with contempt or disdain. It is not proud. It needs virtue, humility.

Love does not behave itself unseemly. It does not flaunt itself to attract attention or to stir up sensual desires in others. It does not act indecently or shamefully. It has good manners. It needs self control, discretion, responsibility.

Love does not seek his own. It does not demands its own way. It does not crave things for its own pleasure or profit. It focuses not on itself but on the needs of others., It is willing to lay down its life for the benefit of others. It needs hospitality, dependability.

Love is not easily provoked. It does not get irritated or exasperated. It conquers anger and wrath. It does not quickly excited to rivalry but rather to helping others succeed. It needs honour, cautiousness, punctuality, orderliness.

Love does not think Evil. It guards its heart and mind and brings every thought into captivity to obedience. It distringuish between good and evil and rejects the evil. It does not retain wrong desires or plans and does not harbour hurtful feelings toward others. It needs obedience, thoroughness, discernment.

Love rejoices not in iniquity. It grieves when evil people are promoted and unjust laws are made. It does not secretly desire to carry out the lusts of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, or the prideful goals of life. It needs justice, decisiveness, determination.

Love rejoices in the truth. It dwells upon thoughts that are true, honest, just, pure, lovely, and of a good report. It is eager to share truth with others and rejoices with all good people when truth prevails. It needs truthfulness, boldness, persuasiveness, diligence, enthusiasm, attentiveness, wisdom. This kind of love bears all things, believe in all things, hope in all things, endures all things. It can outlast anything because love does not fail.

The sweetness love is all depends on individual. Some defines sensual experiences to give the atmosphere of being really sweet; but it is not everlasting. Sweetness depends on your knowledge and grasp of love. The Power of Love.

The greatest love is the sacrifice of one life for another.
The male emperor penguin demonstrates genuine love by standing almost motionless for over 2 months in below-zero temperatures to provide warmth necessary to incubate an egg. During the nesting sequence, he goes up to 120 days without eating.

Love is everlasting!

Tolerance

Tolerance is bouncing back even when you are thrown against a very hard wall. It comes from sensing that everything is a riddle and that all things work in cycles, that what is uncomfortable now will soon change. Someone who is tolerant can be put in the pocket of any situation, can introduce an element of fun and humour. The humour of tolerance comes from complete optimism.

Attentiveness vs Distraction

Attentiveness is an attitude of readiness to do what is true and right; giving a "hearing heart" to the people or projects that need our concentration.

The white-tailed deer constantly listens to what takes place around it. It has extremely acute hearing. Even while grazing, it remains attentive to its surroundings and is on the lookout for danger.

Attentiveness springs from obedient spirit-a prior commitment and desire.
Respectful and undivided attention is an utmost respect and honour.

Alertness vs Carelessness.

If we are not alert, we will be careless. Alertness can exercise our physical and spiritual senses to enhance our awareness and to recognize the dangers that diminish the resources entrusted to me. Beware and vigilant can define the concept of alertness.

The following resources entrusted to us must be protected: Time, health, purity, fellowship, our family and dearest friends, our good name.

The price of freedom is eternal vigilance.

Wisdom

Wisdom is knowledge of danger but no fear. It is the ability to spot a twist in the path in the distance, a narrow stretch, the possibility of a collision; to stop and wait in peace until something has passed.

Wisdom is also richness of abundance knowing knowledge and experience , folded of experience not only of the past but also of the future, gently knowing what is to come. It is like an income, the interest of which is used daily to live with ease, to avoid pitfalls.

Wisdom has love for life with warm and positive perception; simply sees the need and provides, fits in uniquely and quietly.

Wisdom is making the very best of what you have, working vertically not horizontally; smiling in the eyes and turning to the task.

Wisdom recognises the rightness of life.

Respect

Respect is never catching anyone out, never pulling at their shortcomings so that they become a target for laughter. It means watching and nurturing strength and it is based on the awareness that everyone has value, because everyone is unique. It rests also on humility knows that what is visible in a fool is only a chapter of the whole story.

Respect is very cooling because it values space; knows that though love brings the balance, everyone needs time, a pause, a chance to breathe quietly, alone. It stops you going too close too quickly, and it lets people grow in their own time. Respect never urges and only strikes where there is the strength to withstand.

Little..and Today..

We will make the most of today, will be a little healthier, little happier, accomplish a little more love upward and upward a little more and let us love just a little more.

Self Control

The first and the best step to victory is to conquer self not to be conquered. He has to reign himself, rules his passion, desires, put down his fears. Exercise control of self and self mastery show the extent in our appreciation of our capabilities. Constant practice of self control is an important price we must pay for enduring success.

Sweetness

Sweetness is mastery of senses. Eyes that see to the back of things, ears that hear to the heart of things, lips that only speak the essence of things. It is also the result of a long journey inwards to the core of life and the ability to rest there and watch. Sweetness looks for the good in things, for at its heart is the conviction that good is somewhere there in everything, if only you have the patience to discover it. It is also the virtue of the very young who have not lost their optimism and sometimes the very old, in whose contracting lives, every moment is worth a lot and whose part has become a handpicked list of memories which time cannot take from them. Sweetness has to be accumulated because it is your life greatest wealth.

Humility

Humility dismisses nothing but takes even small things seriously. It is a recognition that whatever is in life and in front of you is to be respected as something that will take you forward, that inside big things there is sometimes little but inside little there is often enormity. A humble person is lovely to be with, for beside them one is at one's best and yet because they respect themselves and this further speaks of their beauty. Humility is rare because to have it you have to want nothing, if you do have it, you get everything.

Self Confidence

Self confidence is knowing your way round yourself, knowing the ins and outs so instinctively, that you always have a strength to draw on. It runs much deeper than your nerves. Let's run our confidence deep in our action together with love and reserve of courage.

Courage

Courage thinks only of destination and nothing, feeling victory is ahead. Something touching about a courageous person because all the odds seem against them, but he will make it for he had the strength of quality against the weakness of quantity. And your discipline comes from commitment in spirit.

Love & Glory Of Friendship

Love is Kindness. The Glory of Friendship is the spiritual inspiration that comes to you when you discover that someone else believes in you and willing to trust you.

Cheerfulness

Cheerfulness makes everyone love you because they sense your victory ahead because the foothold for others to follow is the mud on your boots. It takes clarity and conviction. You need to see beyond the present, that all hills have valley and all seasons have summer.